I try to be. Children would be exhausting to parent in the current era. Humanity’s future is gloom too.

  • @sexy_peachA
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    Also if you want to adopt you need a very square life where I live. You need proper jobs, a lot of money to show them, be married etc. Not saying this is bad, it’s probably best for the adopted children, but I don’t have many of these things.

    • @DPUGT2@lemmy.ml
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      Nah, for $50,000 you can buy an African child. Takes about a year or so. It’s not human trafficking because it’s good and wholesome.

      • @TheAnonymouseJoker@lemmy.ml
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        Nah, for $50,000 you can buy an African child. Takes about a year or so. It’s not human trafficking because it’s good and wholesome.

        I did not know human trafficking is wholesome. You are scoring some big wins in this thread, DPUGT2, especially as a married male with 2 kids.

        • @H4rdStyl3z@lemmy.ml
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          12 years ago

          I get what he’s trying to say here; he’s being ironic about it, as some people gullibly adopt from immoral sources such as african warlords. It is child trafficking but, since it is being “whitewashed” and not labeled as such, it becomes somehow acceptable in the public eye.

          • @DPUGT2@lemmy.ml
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            12 years ago

            There are no moral sources. Those who would adopt morally would be compelled to adopt children from their own family first… who better to not let an orphan forget their parents than someone who also loved and knew those parents?

            And if there were no family, then friends of those parents for the same reason.

            And if no friends, then that community… except today, there aren’t really any communities left. Just people who live near each other as accidents of geography.

            And if none in the community, then at least someone from that culture. So that the child might grow up knowing his or her own language and songs and whatnot. But western culture isn’t a culture so much as the absence of one, a void, and so it can’t imagine that anything like that’s important.

            But none of these rules allow hipsters who live in California but are too eco-conscious of their carbon footprint to want to “bring another child into this world” but want to raise a child to do so. So these rules are bad. And that’s why adopting African children is good and moral. Because they want to, they have the money to do it, and that warlord uses a cutout so that the adoption has the appearance of being above-board.

            • @H4rdStyl3z@lemmy.ml
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              12 years ago

              Those who would adopt morally would be compelled to adopt children from their own family first… who better to not let an orphan forget their parents than someone who also loved and knew those parents?

              And if there were no family, then friends of those parents for the same reason.

              I… agree with you? You’re making a strawman out of me in this argument. I never said I advocated for adopting from Africa before adopting from your own family or circle of friends. Heck, if I do decide to adopt in the future, that’s the route I’d try to take first. Not that it’s a big desire of mine, but that’s what I’d choose to do.

              • @DPUGT2@lemmy.ml
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                12 years ago

                You’re making a strawman out of me in this argument.

                We’re on a public forum. Though my comment may be the literal reply to yours, it isn’t necessarily true that I am speaking to you and only you. I’m speaking to others in response to what you’ve said.

                I apologize if this makes it seem I’m hostile to you.

                But I’ll drop another rule on you and see what you make of this. Adoptions are about the children who need someone to care for them, and not for the people adopting who want to gratify their need for a human pet. If you’re doing it for yourself, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. Therefor, the only people who should adopt are those who do not want to, but out of a sense of duty.

                And if people accepted that rule, then we’d have no discussion at all about adoption in this thread. Because adoption can no longer be a substitute for having one’s own children.

                • @H4rdStyl3z@lemmy.ml
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                  We’re on a public forum. Though my comment may be the literal reply to yours, it isn’t necessarily true that I am speaking to you and only you. I’m speaking to others in response to what you’ve said.

                  Ah, ok, thanks for the clarification. I misunderstood your argument.

                  But I’ll drop another rule on you and see what you make of this. Adoptions are about the children who need someone to care for them, and not for the people adopting who want to gratify their need for a human pet. If you’re doing it for yourself, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. Therefor, the only people who should adopt are those who do not want to, but out of a sense of duty.

                  And if people accepted that rule, then we’d have no discussion at all about adoption in this thread. Because adoption can no longer be a substitute for having one’s own children.

                  I somewhat agree, in the sense that, from a moral perspective, if you’re adopting just to satisfy a desire, without any good intention to help the child being adopted, you’re just as evil as if you’ve had a biological child for that same reason. That might be where you disagree with me though.

                  I don’t think people in this thread are advocating for adoption from a strictly selfish point of view, they are merely acknowledging that, in the face of wanting a child to take care of, adopting a child who was neglected seems like a more morally sound choice than having a biological child, in those circumstances.

                  • Torrid
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                    Absolutely. Quite honestly, adopting from another country had never crossed my mind, since I grew up with so many orphans. I was surprised that some people immediately jumped to that conclusion

          • @TheAnonymouseJoker@lemmy.ml
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            02 years ago

            He is not being sarcastic, as you already seem to have experienced. He said in one comment now removed:

            My daughter (12) sometimes asks how many children she could realistically have… a good sign that she hasn’t been tainted by whatever mental illness it is that the “childfree” people have.

            He claims to have a wife and 2 kids, and preach all this load of right wing purist nutjob levels of crap to people.

            • @H4rdStyl3z@lemmy.ml
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              Yeah, I’ve read that comment. I don’t agree with what he said in general but it’s undeniable that there are plenty of scams to lure rich people, typically americans, to poor countries under the guise of adopting children from underfunded orphanages when in fact there are far grimmer ulterior motives behind them.

              • @TheAnonymouseJoker@lemmy.ml
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                02 years ago

                It is a whole different discussion though, which starts with the agreed point that human trafficking should result in harsh punishment instead of it being acceptable under X or Y marketing labels.

        • @DPUGT2@lemmy.ml
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          I did not know human trafficking is wholesome.

          It can be. You just have to label it correctly. Call it “international adoption” and the money “adoption fees”, and it’s all good.

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            I did not know human trafficking is wholesome.

            It can be. You just have to label it correctly. Call it “international adoption” and the money “adoption fees”, and it’s all good.

            …WTF? Labelling something in a sugarcoating manner does not justify it.

            Nazis call atrocities like Holocaust a form of justice, DOES NOT mean it will ever be acceptable.